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About 25 or so years ago I was living in a town of about 3,000 in a county that proudly boasted of a billboard that it was the home of the KKK.

News went out that there was to be a parade of KKK’ers marching through the town and the route would go right past my home. My sons were in their early teens. We were fearful and curious and did not want to engage with this group so we crouched down by one of the front windows so we could peak and see them.

I doubt that I will ever forget that vision. There were no more than 30 marchers, they were walking together more than actually marching and they were not chanting any slogans or carrying and signs. Nonetheless, I could feel the hatred emanating from this ragtag group.

What really burns in my mind was the sight of a young boy, he couldn’t have been any more than 10 years old, walking at the back of this group. Whenever I happened to remember this scene it is always accompanied by a soundtrack from South Pacific, if the song sung by the owner of the plantation with the two beautiful Eurasian children, “You’ve got to be carefully taught”.

My sons have grown to be good husbands and fathers who are now teaching their sons that the only thing it is okay to hate is hatred and the only thing not to tolerate is intolerance.

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To me the saddest sentence in this column is “after all, this is America “. I agree, scenes like this are happening far too often. But that line admits that demonstrations of hatred are now the norm. How far we have fallen. I always took pride in believing that we were the land of the free and the brave. Bullies are, in fact, cowards. Hiding behind the shield of religious self righteousness.

When I was in college my mother did not approve of my behavior and insisted that we speak to our minister. We went, my father, brother and me; my mother had a Bridge game that was more important.

After explaining the situation to the minister he advised that we agree to disagree and that we not rub each other’s noses in our disagreement. A livable, nonjudgmental recommendation. Over the many years since then I’ve remembered this wise advice and tried to apply it the best I could to other conflicts.

My church has a motto, In essentials, Unity. In non essentials, understanding. In all things, Love. Those bullies would be wise to consider this in their daily lives.

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