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It is disheartening, and overwhelming, to listen as men pontificate on the virtues of being a woman while never actually honoring women.

Thank you for sharing your thoughtful and compassionate voice of hope.

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Excellent! And so happy to see the reaction this has brought about. It’s time to weed out the fear-based “believers” among us. Thank you, John, for your continued thoughtful pieces!

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His mother, Elizabeth Butker, is a medical physicist at Emory University in Atlanta. She’s been there since 1988 in the Winship Dept. of Radiation Oncology. Her grandfather also worked at Emory in the school’s oncology dept. She took after her father, James Keller who worked in the same dept. at Emory. She has a Master’s degree in medical physics from Georgia Tech & a bachelor’s degree from women only Smith College. Harrison also attended Georgia Tech. 🤦‍♀️ I guess she gets a pass on the staying home making babies theory. Google it yourself….

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Thanks for your wonderful discussion and for calling out Harrison Butker, who’s butting in where it’s none of his business. He’s young, and he has a lot to learn. However, when you earn around 4 million a year, your wife really doesn’t have to work, unless that’s her desire, unlike the rest of us, who work mostly to support our families, help other people, and fulfill our dreams, just like men do. Full-time work and full-time homemaking are both honorable professions and individual choices, and no woman should be denigrated for either. Butker is out of touch with the world, insulated in a completely male-dominated profession, kicking around a ball, which gives him absolutely no qualification to be a public speaker, needless to say, one who would know what’s best for women. Those Benedictine female grads can decide for themselves, but probably only after they pay off their hefty student loans for going to a private Catholic college.

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Well stated. Thanks for your voice.

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If he thought about for a minute he couldn't be a Christian because women were the first witnesses to the Resurrection.

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John, I am surprised at your comment about the college approving "this wildly inappropriate diatribe." I am a Unitarian Universalist so I have no sympathy for the testosterone poisoned speaker, but the Benedictine women I have known would not support his ideas and the nuns at the college responded rather quickly with their disapproval. Were you reacting out of your R.C. upbringing and the nuns you knew back then? Your response seems uncharacteristic of a writer whose words I frequently quote with enthusiastic agreement.

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You make an excellent point about the swift response of the Benedictine nuns.

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"antiquated, sexist, phobic ... one centering whiteness, maleness, and heteronormativity." I would like to add to that obsolete, out of touch and irrelevant but the issue is there are too many who do not, cannot or will not think for themselves and are being led like sheep following a leader over the cliff. Here's a story from Turkey....Enjoy: https://www.tiktok.com/@realvikasmalkani/video/7283859076906372354?lang=en

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